Prejudice towards money manifests as prejudice towards people
Today, I’m going to talk about money. Occasionally, I have serious discussions too, though it’s not something I do often. Up until now, I haven’t really talked much about money. The topic I get asked about the most is money. Well, you see, when it comes to money, I’m just saying that there are things you can do to improve your chances. Doing these things won’t guarantee you’ll become rich. However, if you do them, your chances of becoming rich will increase dramatically; it’s a matter of probabilities.
So, there are four methods. Just remember even one if you can, and it’s quite an accomplishment. I’ll teach you all four today, but if you can remember at least one, that’s fine too… Let’s aim to remember two (laughs). Yeah, you might want to remember all four, but let’s start with one.
First, about people who become rich. Just remember this one thing: there are people who can’t hold onto money. People who aren’t loved by money. In simple terms, they have biases against money. Everyone thinks they don’t have biases against money, right? But they do. Those biases against money manifest as biases against people.
Don’t get upset at people who manage to attract money successfully.
Simply put, if someone doesn’t work much but manages to make a lot of money, you might get upset about it. To put it another way…
Let’s say your boss doesn’t work as hard as you do but earns a higher salary. If you get upset about that, it’s because of these biases. Similarly, if a classmate who couldn’t study as well as you did and wasn’t as good at sports as you were manages to get a house from their parents, some people might feel upset. Getting upset means you can’t forgive it. You can’t forgive someone who has managed to attract money successfully.
And that’s when you emit a vibration that says, “I won’t accept circumstances beyond what I believe is justified by their skills.”
Allow for circumstances beyond your perceived abilities
Listen, it’s alright to accept situations beyond your perceived abilities. Just the other day, my friend Michan wrote a book that’s currently selling well, titled “Playing Rich.” She didn’t write a single line herself. No, here’s the thing – usually, people would say they achieved something great by writing a book. But writing a book is something many capable people can’t do. Yet, people who can’t even write well manage to publish books. That’s what’s truly remarkable. The way truly remarkable individuals climb the ladder is different.
“Good for them” is the magic phrase. If someone without much skill gets a house from their parents, just say, “Good for them.” Because if they were truly skilled, they would have already acquired it.
So, if something good happens to someone who isn’t particularly skilled, tell them “Good for you.” Do you understand?
You should all remember that when you genuinely say “Good for you” to someone when they’re blessed, the same will happen to you.
Teaching the brain to accept windfall income
Recently, someone asked me, “What should I do about my child’s education?” They mentioned gifted education. And when I asked about gifted education, it was about educating the child about money. I was raised with gifted education. When I was a child, there were three ways to use money.
At first, it was just normal for children to help around the house without getting paid. Japan was quite poor back then, you know. Do you understand? Then, gradually, even if you don’t realize it, children would get paid for doing chores. For example, if they cleaned the shoe cabinet every day, they would receive 100 yen. Do you get it? With this kind of education, the idea is that if you work, you’ll get paid. Okay, got it. But this doesn’t lead to gifted education.
Gifted education is about suddenly receiving 10,000 yen without any apparent reason. Birthdays and New Year’s don’t count. Why are you giving it to me today? It’s about receiving unexpectedly. This makes the brain accept that you can get money just because you were born here. Without this, you’ll start envying those who receive income without working. You’ll start envying those who are successful. This is a common trait in families that struggle with money for generations. It continues like a family tradition. Seriously, that’s how it is.
If you can’t forgive anyone who receives temporary income, your own temporary income will decrease. If you don’t allow temporary income, it will stop coming to you. When you receive temporary income, you feel uplifted. You stop envying others. You think, “Oh, something good happened to them. Something good will happen to me too.” People can’t live solely on temporary income. It’s good to have a stable income. But occasional temporary income can make you extremely happy.
Jealousy is proportional to distance
So, for those who say things like, “I don’t get much extra income,” or “My work isn’t going well,” or “I have financial problems,” they’re somewhere harboring resentment or jealousy towards others.
You see, jealousy is proportional to distance. It’s good to remember this.
In America, if someone inherits a billion dollars, you might not be so upset about it. But if your neighbor receives a million dollars, that might bother you more.
Jealousy is proportional to distance.
People who can genuinely say, “That’s great!” when something good happens to a friend or a sibling are essentially saying to the universe, “I’m ready to receive good things too.” They’re okay with it anytime. People who are jealous and closed off internally can’t do that.
So, instead of some weird education, occasionally giving someone a bonus of 10,000 yen or something, that’s what I call nurturing talent.
Understanding money is simple.
Teach them the correct concept of economy
The other day, my friend Michan was saying, “My Kids sometimes skip swimming class to play with their friends because it’s more fun.”
So I said, “Well, they’re not fish, so it’s okay if they can’t swim.” But she felt it was a waste because she pays tuition.
“How much is the tuition?” I asked. She said it’s 7,000 yen.
“Okay, so if they’re not going to attend, then give them 1,000 yen and give you 6,000 yen,” I told her. That way, the kids don’t have to go to the class they don’t want, and they get 1,000 yen while the mom gets 6,000 yen.
If this simple calculation becomes natural for people, they start thinking, “Economics works like this.” It’s like their economic perspective starts functioning.
And then, even though others might be able to swim, if you can’t swim, that’s okay. Non-swimmers won’t drown. They just avoid the water. And when they get on a boat, they always wear a life jacket. It’s the ones who can swim that are at risk.
Balance earned income with passive income
Not too long ago, I went to Singapore. I saw an old man riding a bicycle there. He overtook another cyclist, so I patted his legs, and then handed some money. He received money, but he didn’t understand why. Then he overtook another cyclist, and I handed him money. He realized that overtaking a cyclist would earn him money. So, he began overtaking cyclists faster and faster, collecting more and more money.
That’s why windfalls bring vitality. Suddenly, life becomes enjoyable.
Many people who work assume that any income outside of labor is unjust. As a result, they only rely on their jobs. But the truth is, successful people have various sources of income, not just from labor. If you can’t accept occasional windfalls, you’ll start resenting those who have them.
I’ve been receiving a lot of money since I was little. The reason? I was genuinely cute. That’s a big deal.
Back when people worked, they couldn’t even receive allowance. You might ask if Japan was prosperous at that time, but it was poor. When things got better, they started giving allowance for doing chores. But it’s not quite like that.
Even someone like Rockefeller’s son, during university times, everyone works part-time jobs. It’s the same for wealthy people. However, parents don’t say, “Live off your part-time job money.” They make you work to understand how much you can earn in a day. Do you understand what I’m saying?
But for things like university fees and other expenses, they provide that properly. Wealthy families understand both sides. You see, it’s not good to be one-sided.
In simple terms, people who only receive allowance without working won’t succeed in society. If you only earn what you work for, you’ll end up poor. On the other hand, you’ll start feeling irritated when you see someone who manages to earn income skillfully. That irritation sends out a negative energy towards the heavens and the world.
Getting irritated at others’ success won’t cause any problems for those who are successful. It’s not an issue for them. It’s only an issue for you who can’t forgive. Because you can’t forgive, you’re the one who misses out. Those who are receiving are forgiving, totally. They even want to receive more, that’s how it is.
Do you understand?
Start by wishing happiness for others
So, you must wish for others’ happiness. This is the first practice I teach my disciples. When you see someone passing by, think, “May all the good things happen to this person.”
In summary, start with wishing happiness for others. Become someone who can genuinely say, “Good for you” when something good happens to someone else. This is the most important practice. It all starts here.
Remember this one thing today. If something good happens to someone, say “Good for you.” That’s all you need to remember.
This is what my first disciple learned too. Okay?
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