Good events happen to individuals who believe “I have value.”
Also, the second one.
Even if we talk about having passive income, there are people with passive income of 100 yen and people with passive income of 1 million yen. The difference is in the scale.
The reason for this difference in scale is whether you believe you have value or not. Do you understand?
There are people who believe they have no value.
People who believe they have no value might encounter situations where bullies appear at work, making them think, “I have no value.” On the other hand, individuals who believe “I have value” experience events that reaffirm their value.
For example, when I go to learn English, of course, I can’t do it. In that case, I think, “I found out that I’m not cut out for English in two days. So, when I go abroad, I’ll bring someone who can speak English or hire an interpreter,” and by thinking that, I become wealthy enough to hire an interpreter.
However, those who lack confidence, even if they can’t speak English, will try harder. They won’t give up in two days. They’ll keep trying and trying, and when they can’t succeed, they’ll come to accept, “I’m a worthless person.” Do you understand?
People who think themselves as worthless gather evidence of their worthlessness. They end up concluding, “I really am worthless.”
And that’s where the word “lucky” that I often talk about comes in. When you say “lucky,” the difference lies between thinking of oneself as “unlucky” or saying “I am lucky.” It changes the value you perceive in yourself.
You know, people who think negatively about everything, you can’t feel their value even from the outside. Because who would want to be around such a person?
Think you’re lucky. Speak the words of happiness.
“I am a valuable person.”
“I am an incredibly valuable person.”
Don’t diminish your value by counting what you can’t do
In general, Hitori-san(I call myself Hitori-san) isn’t just amazing; I’m extraordinary.
People who resonate with extraordinary individuals share the same frequency of energy, and that’s why they’re extraordinary. Do you understand?
Also, our brains, if turned into a machine, are so incredible that they’d be the size of Earth. Having this brain, eyes, nose, mouth—if God were to reside in each of us, it would be something tremendous. God has bestowed us with so much.
Despite being endowed with so much, if you still believe you have no value, it angers God.
In that case, God would say, “Where do you think you lack value?” in frustration.
There are people who say, “I can’t do this, I can’t do that,” but things you can’t do are meant to be entrusted to others.
It’s necessary to ask others to do things for you. If you could do everything, you wouldn’t be endearing.
Things you can’t do—when you ask someone for help, they’ll do it for you. I also have a ton of things I can’t do.
But for things you can do, you do them and they say “thank you” to you, and when someone does things for you, you say “thank you.” This is how humans live.
However, saying, “I can’t do this and that, so I’m worthless,” is not good.
The real reason you think you’re worthless is often 99% because of your parents. Parents want their children to surpass them.
Children try to meet those expectations, but the child you gave birth to might not do well.
In the past, everyone was poor, but nowadays, there are more families with money than before. So, even though mothers can’t play the piano, they try to make their children learn. They try to make their children speak English, but they can’t do it themselves. Therefore, modern children are pitiable.
Trying to meet those expectations can make children mentally unstable. When they can’t fulfill their parents’ expectations, they call themselves worthless.
Recently, there was a girl who was really good at studying. When she scored 90, her parents told her, “Our relative’s child scored 100.” This hurts the child.
Imagine if I worked hard to get a 5 out of 100 and someone said, “That kid got a 6.” Well, that’s not much different?(laugh) It would hurt me, because I tried my best and got a 5. I’m strong, so it’s okay for me, but for her, it’s hurtful.
A method to break free from your parents’ values
Recently, Nobu-chan went on a drive with me. He’s one of the presidents of “Ginza Marukan.” About once a year, he experiences stomach pain. During the journey, his stomach hurts a lot. He goes to the hospital, but there’s nothing wrong. There are no signs of pain in his blood tests, not even a trace. But he feels tremendous pain. Why does this happen every year? Nobu-chan is too nice. You shouldn’t try to be liked by everyone.
People like that didn’t have a proper rebellious phase. People who didn’t have a proper rebellious phase can break free from their parents’ values by repeatedly saying in their minds, “This damn old hag.”
If you say “This damn old hag” several times in your mind, the walls will crumble.
This holds true from a psychological perspective as well.
In essence, it’s because they couldn’t meet their father’s or mother’s expectation to “raise them well.” As a result, parents hurt their children. When you no longer feel value within yourself, you try to find value by being a good person. You end up trying to be liked even by people who dislike you or envy you.
The cause of this behavior lies with the parents. Those who had a rebellious phase are fine. I, for instance, have been in a rebellious phase since birth. Always. I’m refreshing.
However, there are many children who have been hurt. So, those who don’t feel value within themselves simply couldn’t meet their parents’ expectations. They tried too hard to act like a good child. So, all they need to do is stop that.
And, just by everyone choosing me, it means you have value. You’re an amazing person.
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