Try saying “I will forgive myself more” instead of just “I will forgive myself.”
There’s a magical phrase that I have been recommending lately, saying, “It’s good to say this word.” That word is “I will forgive myself more.” Until now, we’ve recommended saying, “I will forgive myself.”
However, saying “I will forgive myself more” goes even deeper into the heart and becomes a word that heals oneself even more deeply. Please say this word to yourself many times a day.
You don’t need to think about specifics like “What should I forgive myself for?” or “What good things come from saying it?” Just keep repeating this word to yourself.
By doing so, at some point, a sense of happiness that you’ve never felt before will overflow, something indescribable. That’s the moment when the bonds of your heart are released.
Everyone, regardless of who they are, more or less can’t forgive themselves. But they pretend not to notice and continue living while hiding it.
That feeling of “not being able to forgive oneself” is invisible, but it tightly binds your heart.
How to free yourself from “outdated things taught by your parents”
For example, there are people who can’t respond when someone says something harsh to them.
These people were taught by their parents, “If someone says something to you, don’t talk back” or “Just listen to what the other person says, yes-yes.” They grew up hearing such “honest responses.”
In the past, it was fine to have such “honest responses” as your parents taught. But in today’s world, that doesn’t work anymore. In today’s world, you have to become stronger to survive. If someone says something harsh to you, you have to respond properly, or you have to take actions that prevent others from saying harsh things to you. Otherwise, you’ll be bullied.
Your parents didn’t teach you with bad intentions. It’s just that what they taught you is outdated. There are still people who are bound by these “outdated things taught by their parents.”
In that state, going out into the world is like going into a boxing match while being tied up. So when someone says something harsh, your heart gets beaten up, but you can’t fight back, and it’s very painful.
However, when you’re telling yourself “I will forgive myself more,” the bonds of your heart loosen. When they loosen, you start to think, “Oh, that’s right, I should respond like this,” and you come up with clever ways to respond to the other person, or you think, “I should anticipate and act before the other person can say something harsh,” and you can come up with various strategies.
Bound hearts accumulate “negative energy”
Also, there are people who can’t get angry even when something unpleasant is done to them. They pretend to be “good people” while keeping the anger inside. Anger is a form of “negative energy.”
When you forcibly hold that “negative energy” inside and don’t let it out when you feel it, it gradually accumulates within you. It’s like drops of water accumulating one by one in a cup.
And then, when the cup becomes full of water and the water overflows from the cup, suddenly a “mass of negative energy” bursts out. That “mass of negative energy” either attacks you or the other person. When attacking someone, you might act arrogant, be mean, or even resort to violence. When attacking yourself, you might become reclusive or even become depressed. Your body’s cells also attack, so you might become sick. Both ways of releasing it are very unpleasant.
“Negative energy” includes not only anger but also sadness, regret, jealousy, and feelings like “Your older sister is smart, but you’re not.” It’s a mixture of various emotions.
As I mentioned earlier, “outdated things taught by your parents” are also a form of “negative energy.” This “negative energy” turns into a feeling of “I can’t forgive myself!” and tightly binds your heart.
“Forgiving yourself more” to dissipate negative energy
To skillfully release this “negative energy” bound within your heart, you need to tell yourself “I will forgive myself more.” When you say this word, the “negative energy” that has been accumulating at the bottom of your heart gradually starts to disappear.
As the “negative energy” fades to some extent, you’ll feel lighter, and you’ll start to think, “Yes, that’s what I should do!” or “If I say it like this, it’s better!” Concrete methods to escape from the “negative state” will come to you suddenly.
So, first and foremost, keep telling yourself “I will forgive myself more” many times. By doing so, your heart will become at ease, you’ll start to love yourself, and you’ll be filled with happiness every day. When you become happy, you can make people around you happier too. That’s right, if you want to help others, you first need to help yourself.
The simplest magical phrase for that “self-help” is “I will forgive myself more.”
That’s all for today’s talk. Thank you very much.
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